Toxic relationships are a growing problem in today’s society, significantly affecting the mental health and emotional well-being of those who suffer from them. According to the National Survey on the Dynamics of Relationships in Homes (ENDIREH) carried out by INEGI, toxic relationships are not only limited to romantic couples; They can also arise between friends, school or work colleagues, and even within the family.
A toxic relationship is characterized by disharmony, being destructive, where one or both parties cause physical, emotional, or psychological harm to the other. Behaviors that may suggest a relationship is toxic include not being able to be yourself, threats, manipulation, and being forced to stop doing things you like.
Characteristics of toxic relationships
Toxic relationships are characterized by an unbalanced dynamic where manipulation, control, and emotional, physical, or psychological abuse predominate. Some warning signs include:
- Constant lack of respect.
- Negative and destructive communication.
- Emotional dependence.
- Devaluation and constant criticism.
- Control over decisions and personal freedom.
Types of toxic relationships
There are various types of toxic relationships, including:
- Loving relationships: Where love is conditioned or manipulated. These types of relationships are more between couples with some type of emotional bond.
- Toxic friendships: Characterized by envy, unfair competition, and conditional support. It is through friendships, they can be friends or colleagues.
- Family relationships: Where patterns of emotional abuse or neglect prevail. It can be exercised by dad, mom, brothers, uncles, brothers-in-law, nephews, etc.
- Labor relations: Hostile work environments that affect self-esteem and performance. These can be exercised by bosses, co-workers, or people with high command.
toxic behaviors
The most common toxic behaviors are:
- Emotional manipulation: refers to when a person uses tactics to influence the behavior or emotions of another, seeking to obtain advantages or control without taking into account the needs or desires of the other.
- Emotional blackmail: It is a form of psychological manipulation in which one person uses emotions such as guilt, fear, and obligation to control or influence the behavior of another.
- Verbal or physical attacks: These are forms of abusive behavior that can occur in various relationships and contexts, including home, work, and public spaces.
- Isolation from friends and family – is a control tactic used in abusive or toxic relationships, where one person attempts to limit and control the social interactions and relationships of another.
- Invasion of privacy: These are actions that violate the personal space, freedom, and confidentiality of an individual.
Why are relationships toxic?
Relationships become toxic due to multiple factors, including:
- Low self-esteem and fear of loneliness in victims.
- Need for control and power in the aggressor.
- Lack of effective communication skills.
- History of dysfunctional family relationships.
Who should I go to if I have a toxic relationship?
If you find yourself in a toxic relationship, it is crucial to seek support:
- Trusted friends and family.
- Mental health professionals, such as psychologists or therapists.
- Organizations dedicated to emotional and psychological support.
Treatment to overcome a toxic relationship
Treatment to overcome a toxic relationship includes:
- Psychological therapy: Psychological therapy is essential to work on self-esteem, establish healthy boundaries, and process emotional trauma.
- Support groups: They offer understanding and solidarity from people who have experienced similar situations.
- Self-care strategies: Activities that promote physical and emotional well-being.
Conclusion
Getting over a toxic relationship is a complex process that requires time, patience, and support. Psychological therapy plays a crucial role in this path to recovery, offering the tools necessary to heal and build healthier relationships in the future. Let’s remember that the first step towards change is to recognize the problem and seek help. You are not alone, and emotional well-being is a right that we all deserve.