Love has knocked on your door and do you intend to keep this man? Know how to avoid mistakes that ruin the romantic relationship. Here are ten tips to strengthen your relationship and be happy together.
Okay, you have someone in your life, but how do you make them stay there and make things work between you? Succeeding in your romantic relationship is not that complicated, you have to follow the lesson.
1 Have confidence in yourself
Well, the first piece of advice concerns you. Because even before loving someone, you have to agree with yourself. The first key to a lasting relationship: loving yourself and trusting yourself. So embrace your personality and don’t take advantage of being in a relationship to hide behind your other half. Is he shiny? Don’t think “Why is he with me?” » but “So much the better, we make a pair”. He’s lucky too to be with someone like you. The idea is not to overestimate yourself, but to see yourself as you are, and as Jules sees you. Being with a woman who takes responsibility is rewarding and sexy for him too! Because you’re worth it (what, isn’t that one one of us?)
2 Control your jealousy
Do you tend to be possessive? Be careful, being a couple means walking together in the same direction, and for that, you don’t need to put on a muzzle. Trust in others is essential and directly linked to your self-confidence. Is he going to meet friends at a bar? Very well, let him move freely, and don’t attack him as soon as he walks through the door with questions like “Where have you been?” Were there girls? Were they pretty? “. Coping him is the best way to make him want to move away. And you understand it well, you also hate shrews.
3 Pull Him Up (And Him)
As a couple, it’s good to support and encourage each other. Because your man is supposed to be your best support (for better or for worse…). Listen to him, hear his doubts and his aspirations. Feel concerned about what is important to him. Be careful, this has to go both ways. Needless to say, it’s not good for you to be the sole driving force in your relationship. The idea is to advance in pairs and take turns, the best way to win the endurance race in which you have embarked with your Jules.
4 Continue to surprise each other
Ah, routine, this rust that turns you and your darling into licensed slippers. We all have our little habits that fill our lives, but don’t let yourself be absorbed by a daily life without twists and turns. You have to keep things moving, you have to constantly discover new things about the two of you and the world. In practice, go out together, and share new experiences. Does he want to go to Patagonia this winter? Are you changing jobs? Does he give you flowers just because he wants them? Go for it! If we don’t always live at 100 miles an hour, we don’t let ourselves slow down. Don’t forget that love is like your interior, it needs to be maintained.
5 Communicate!
Sometimes, because we’ve been together for a long time or because we’re angry, we stop talking. Big mistake! Because communication is what makes you a couple and not just lovers. So don’t let the silence settle in under the pretext of sulking or maintaining mystery. If something is bothering you (a problem at work, an overdraft, a missed color, etc.), confide in him. We don’t tell you to have big philosophical discussions every morning but vary the topics, from the most common (What are we eating?) to the most elitist (No, you can’t think that of Nietzsche!) including the naughtiest (Shall we try handcuffs?). Exchange is essential.
6 Make time for yourself
You are in a relationship, yes. But that’s not why you have to give up your own life! Your friends, your hobbies, your passions, maintain them! We must think that we are an “I” who is added to one another to form a couple. So we don’t forget ourselves in there. Keeping a part of your life for yourself means asserting yourself as a free woman, even if you are in love. You don’t abandon him to his sad fate when you go for a drink with your friends, you cultivate your social life. And then don’t forget that you already existed before meeting him, that you had a life of your own. You brought it in, but you didn’t give it up. So go to the exhibitions if you like it, you’ll tell him about it this evening at home.
7 Don’t be (too) secretive
Yes, we know that sometimes a little lie allows us to get out of trouble unseen or unknown. But within a couple, avoid this type of attitude. They can be very harmful because one lie hiding another, our darling can take it very badly. If you prefer not to address a subject, don’t do it, but don’t go inventing who knows what pirouette, he is neither blind nor stupid. You risk ruining the trust that has been established between you, and without it… Cultivate honesty within your relationship, so as not to lock yourself into an uncomfortable situation.
8 He looks at girls, so what? Look at the men!
Being in a relationship does not mean becoming ascetics. Loving yourself is one thing, appreciating beauty is another. So if in the street he turns around when Kate Moss passes, don’t pull on his sleeve like a math teacher. Take care of Brad Pitt crossing in front of you (yes, where you are, there are only stars!). Same in the evening when a man invites you to chat, don’t run away just because your darling is there! Plus, he’s cute, so boost your ego by agreeing to the conversation. Of course, all of this must be handled with delicacy. You don’t throw yourself at everything that moves just because Jules is looking at pretty girls. Parsimony is the mother of all virtues…
9 Have fun in bed
As a general rule, when you’re with someone, you get along just as well at the restaurant as under the covers. Sex plays a very important part in a romantic relationship, so while you’re at it, enjoy it. So, don’t neglect your desires and your antics! In case of sluggishness, drop in libido, or simple routine, remember to treat yourself. Why not make one of your fantasies come true, or make your encounters under the duvet exciting and fun with naughty objects? Know how to maintain your pleasure and his.
10 Don’t seek perfection
You are a perfectionist, yes. But you can’t blame Jules for not doing everything your way. Don’t get annoyed by small blunders, no one is perfect, not even Prince Charming. So if you don’t put beer in the pancake batter or if you can’t stand seeing your socks lying around under the bed, don’t go to the front just yet. Talk about it quietly first (see lesson no. 5) and agree to see things their way After all, it’s not all that bad. His pancakes are good, and his socks, he’ll pick them up after dinner.